The following is an excerpt from the book

Grandparenting: Renew, Relive, Rejoice.

 

“The moment you accept what troubles you’ve been given, the door will open.”
Rumi

 

  • It is not easy to let go of judgments and expectations, and “accept what is,” especially when we are not pleased with a particular circumstance. We can choose to be miserable or upset, or adjust our attitude and be appreciative of what we have. Self-awareness combined with positive thinking leads to increased tolerance of challenging situations. For example:When we disagree with our grown children’s parenting or disciplining styles, remember we are the grandparents, not the parents. Stop, breathe, bite your tongue.
  • When dynamics with in-laws aren’t perfect, stay calm, use good judgment, watch your words, and try to accept them for who they are. Keeping peace is a priority.
  • If we are unhappy about how infrequently we see our grandchildren, whether they live close by or far away, take a moment to appreciate any time spent together. Be happy with what you have.
  • When we notice that our kids and grandkids demonstrate values different from ours, whether they are socio-cultural, spiritual, familial, personal, material, or political, we must do our best to acknowledge and understand their perspective. Remember, it is their journey.

“Last month I took my two grandsons to a park. I wanted to have some outside time with them. This park has it all—airplanes for viewing, long walkways for scooting, nice trees and grass for sitting, and swings, slides, and a high tower for playing. We brought a picnic lunch and sat eating and watching everything. I saw the sheer fascination and focus on their beautiful faces as the planes took off and landed. At one point, there were no planes coming or going. We sat together not saying a word, just enjoying this quiet time and the beauty of nature.” ~ Memaw